By reading this summary of The Power of Vulnerability audiobook by Brene Brown, you will discover the benefits of feeling vulnerable.
About Brene Brown
Dr. Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston. She holds a PhD from the Graduate College of Social Work at the University of Houston.
She is the author of five #1 New York Times bestsellers, namely :
About The Power of Vulnerability
- Release date: November, 2012
- Number of customer reviews: 221 reviews. (06/05/19)
- Number of stars: 4.7/5.0.
Key quote from the book
I know that vulnerability is the core of shame and fear, but it appears that it’s also the birthplace of joy, of creativity, of belongings, of love.Brene Brown
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The Power of Vulnerability Summary:
With no doubt, every individual is struggling through some aspects of life each day, but this is how life is. The problem arises when we don’t fight back instead, we accept it as our faith and let it be the way it is. There are a number of researches on different reactions that human beings respond with towards the situation or a scenario.
The aspects and distinctions targeted in this research are generally the ones that a normal human would never make a guess of. Brene Brown describes the purpose and meaning of life, of a human being and how does a human respond to the natural aspects of life. As well as she targets the emotional consequences of one which lead to the implementation of certain actions.
Her book is basically the composition of all the knowledge she has gained over the past 10 years of her study in social work. Main and peculiar points of the theory are enumerated below:
We strive for connection:
Brene Brown describes it very beautifully that connection is all that makes us exist. And in our daily lives ranging from small tasks to the complicated ones all are basically centered around the aspects of connection. We want to feel connected. We want people to know us but only in our better aspects as we tend to hide the ones which we do not want to showcase to the others.
Excluded is always focused:
An important aspect of human nature is that we always focus on the excluded part the most. There are a number of examples that we observe in daily life. We like to talk about what was excluded from the package while completely ignoring the fact that what was included in the package. It leads us towards the fear of disconnection.
Shame and fear of disconnection:
These are the aspects that stop us from showcasing our real self to the world because we feel ashamed. We don’t want to dive into the feeling of disconnection as we fear this feeling.
Brene Brown concluded from the study of the lives of numerous people that there are basically two groups of people; one practice the sense of love and belonging and the others don’t. Brene reveals very beautifully that those who practice the sense of love and belonging are actually the ones who hold the characteristics of wholeheartedness. Now, what is wholeheartedness? It’s simply the fact that they believe in their worth as well as embraced their imperfections in a perfect way.
Courage, Compassion, and connection:
The research of Brene Brown’s research reveals that wholehearted people hold aspects of courage, compassion, and connection. These people are ready to present themselves to the world just the way they are. Such people are very clear about the significance of the connection and all. They know their worth and know how to be kind to themselves before being kind to others because no one can be kind to the world if he/she is not kind to himself/herself first. These three are the main aspects that evoke the spirit of love and belonging in their lives.
This is the main aspect around which whole of the book revolves. She describes that we are vulnerable each day in different forms. The fact is that vulnerability is a very common aspect of life, but the most important question is how you respond to it. Vulnerability is basically a response to act first. It defines that if a person is ready to take the rest by diving into any experience or action first while knowing the fact that it may have any consequential result. A person should be willing enough to be the first to initiate a certain action.
What do we do?
Being a human being, we have different sort of reactions towards situations that we are facing. Brene Brown describes those responses in the following aspects:
Numbing the vulnerability:
As a general response, we try to numb the emotions of vulnerability. We try to ignore it intentionally. But the fact is that we can never ignore any emotion selectively or in other terms numbing one emotion can lead to the numbering of many others accompanied with it. So, it also results in the numbing of positive emotions which may include joy, enjoyment, gratitude and a lot more in the process.
The feeling of the perfect We:
As a human being, it is something instilled in us that we consider ourselves perfect in many ways. It is very less likely that we are open to new changes that can be implemented in ourselves. We fabricate a fake layer on ourselves considering that we are perfect, and we do not need any sort of improvement. This is what basically forms the basis of disconnection accompanied by the factors of shame and fear.
Making uncertain certain:
We have an intellect which we try to use in different forms. In our daily lives, we have a habit of marking the uncertain things as certain and raising a shut-up call for the others who hold opposite opinions to us. It also at times forms the basis of losing the sense of love and belonging.
As a human being, we are living the lives which are accompanied by a number of mistakes on a daily basis. But we do not want our version to be showcased in the front of the world. We want to be perfect and for that, we pretend which is a major cause of avoiding the factor of vulnerability.
What to expect from the book?
This theory is an amazing one because it holds many aspects of learning. Some of them are as follows:
- Understanding the significance of valuing one’s own self,
- Learning the I am enough principle,
- Implement the power of vulnerability in your daily life,
- Find those aspects which should be eradicated in order to live a true life,
- Gaining the essence of aspects that can lead you to practice good parenting.
All in all, we need to understand the significance of vulnerability in our lives. We should not be afraid of taking the first step, we might not be able to relish the true essence of life if we will be waiting for the other to take the step. We live in a vulnerable world, so why can we not adopt an attitude of vulnerability in our tasks.
So, if you want to learn the aspects of vulnerability and how to implement them in your daily lives so that it can enhance your life, the book “The power of vulnerability” is the key for you. Are you ready to hear that?